Ghost

I have heard the new song, "Ghost" by Justin Bieber, at least once a day for the past week or so. I know it's coming on so that I can still process my grief.

It starts off by saying, "Youngblood thinks there's always tomorrow" and then "I need more time but time can't be borrowed". I don't just think it's the youngbloods that feel that we always get tomorrow. A lot of times I forget that we don't always get tomorrow too. And I do sometimes wish that I could have more time. I think about what I would do or say if I could even have a few more moments. I'm not sure we ever talked about more than the financial piece if one of us was to pass away. I don't think we talked about decisions with the kids or being in another relationship. 

The next part about not having you here and settling for the ghost is what I've been feeling a lot lately. I know that Steve is watching over me and that that's never going to end regardless of what decisions I make. But it truly is settling. You don't get a choice. I'm just glad that he continues to visit me and let me know that his love hasn't ended.

When Steve first died, I did think about following him, but not until it was my time. I knew I was still supposed to be living; that many people still needed me; that my life did have a purpose that I had not fulfilled yet. I miss him and I miss him being at important events but I don't miss him more than the life I have. I know I meant to be living without him because it has made me stronger, more independent and able to make more decisions that are right for me and for the boys.

I wrote the first part of this and then left for work. I started my playlist and the second or third song came on was "Say You Won't Let Go" by James Arthur.  This is the song I consider our song with Chris.  It hit me hard that the part I always share with Chris in that song is "Just say you won't let go, I wanna live with you, Even when we're ghosts". 

Realizing this I just said, "okay universe" I get it. I can love both people and want to be with them forever. Thank you God for bringing two amazing men into my life that love me and support me!

Here are the lyrics for both songs: 

 "Ghost" by Justin Bieber

Youngblood thinks there's always tomorrow

I miss your touch on nights when I'm hollow

I know you crossed a bridge that I can't follow

Since the love that you left is all that I get

I want you to know

That if I can't be close to you

I'll settle for the ghost of you

I miss you more than life (more than life)

And if you can't be next to me

Your memory is ecstasy

I miss you more than life

I miss you more than life

Youngblood thinks there's always tomorrow (woo)

I need more time but time can't be borrowed

I'd leave it all behind if I could follow

Since the love that you left is all that I get

I want you to know

That if I can't be close to you

I'll settle for the ghost of you

I miss you more than life (more than life), yeah

And if you can't be next to me

Your memory is ecstasy (oh)

I miss you more than life

I miss you more than life

Whoa

Na, na-na

More than life

Oh

So if I can't get close to you

I'll settle for the ghost of you

But I miss you more than life

And if you can't be next to me

Your memory is ecstasy

I miss you more than life

I miss you more than life

Source: LyricFind

"Say You Won't Let Go" byJames Arthur

I met you in the dark, you lit me up
You made me feel as though I was enough
We danced the night away, we drank too much
I held your hair back when
You were throwing up

Then you smiled over your shoulder
For a minute, I was stone-cold sober
I pulled you closer to my chest
And you asked me to stay over
I said, I already told ya
I think that you should get some rest

I knew I loved you then
But you'd never know
'Cause I played it cool when I was scared of letting go
I know I needed you
But I never showed
But I wanna stay with you until we're grey and old
Just say you won't let go
Just say you won't let go

I'll wake you up with some breakfast in bed
I'll bring you coffee with a kiss on your head
And I'll take the kids to school
Wave them goodbye
And I'll thank my lucky stars for that night

When you looked over your shoulder
For a minute, I forget that I'm older
I wanna dance with you right now
Oh, and you look as beautiful as ever
And I swear that everyday you'll get better
You make me feel this way somehow

I'm so in love with you
And I hope you know
Darling, your love is more than worth its weight in gold
We've come so far, my dear
Look how we've grown
And I wanna stay with you until we're grey and old
Just say you won't let go
Just say you won't let go

I wanna live with you
Even when we're ghosts
'Cause you were always there for me when I needed you most

I'm gonna love you 'til
My lungs give out
I promise 'til death we part like in our vows
So I wrote this song for you, now everybody knows
That it's just you and me 'til we're grey and old
Just say you won't let go
Just say you won't let go

Just say you won't let go
Oh, just say you won't let go

Source: LyricFind